In order to enjoy something it is a good idea to know a thing or two about it. A penis has quite a large range in size. It can range from 1.6 inches to 10.2 inches with the average penis size being between 6 and 7 inches long. So just how does one measure? The best tool to use is a sewing measuring tape for the most accurate measure; although, you could use a ruler as well. The good thing about a ruler is that it has a dual purpose. You can use it to measure then you can use it to smack that ass. Anyway, first you get your partner as hard as you can. Then you take the measuring tape or ruler. Start at the base of the dick right where the shaft meets the body and measure to the tip of the head. That is how big he is and you know what they say that size DOES matter. Well guess what that is true the deeper he can penetrate the bigger the orgasm, but if he is too big that can cause pain and ruin the chance for an orgasm (unless you are the type of person whom is into pain then it would be just right). You may notice a huge difference in size from when it is soft to when it is hard or you may not notice much of a difference at all. That is because there are two types of penises growers and show-ers. I am sure you can figure out which is which. 

Did you know that a dick has a mind of its own. There is no connection between the brain and the penis. That is why his dick can get hard anytime during the day even if he doesn't want it to. A man can have up to 11 hard-ons a day and 3 to 5 every night. It will just pop up on its own for no reason at all. It is just a reflex. 

The dick seems specially made for pleasure for him and her. For him there is a shaft which is the perfect shape to stroke your hand up and down. The head is perfect for the mouth. It is fun to lick around, nibble gently and suck. The head is the most sensitive part of the dick. It is as sensitive as a fully erect clit. The dick is made perfectly for her pleasure too. Because of its shape, the dick puts pressure on two different places inside the woman's vagina, It's long and slightly curved upward so when there is full penetration a woman feels pressure on her cervix and when he pulls away she can feel pressure on the g-spot. It is built so that both in and out feel great.

The dick can be very fun to play with, like introducing new sensations. You can try with soft play like furs, silk or a feather. There are lubes that cause tingling. You can try out hot and cold like warming/cooling lube, ice or wax play candles. Play with food like whipped cream, pop rocks or Altoids. It is especially fun when you blow on it after putting it in your mouth with the Altoids. You can also try spitting, blowing and gently scraping your teeth alongside the shaft. Then there is one of my favorites the hand-job blow-job. Grab the dick in your hand, then put your mouth right above your fist and over the head. As you stroke the dick up and down your mouth follows the same direction as your hand, sucking on the head as you go. You don't even need to play with the dick itself to make him cum. You can massage the prostate/male g-spot. There are two ways that you can do it. The first way is sticking your finger in his ass hole and curving your finger upwards directing it as if you are asking someone to come here. The second way is to stroke it through the taint. Place a couple of fingers below the balls right past the stiff penis bulb to the soft fleshy part. Use your fingers to put pressure right in that spot, move them up and down or massage it back and forth. The pressure will make him feel unbelievable. Get creative! there are tons of sensations you can play with that will make him feel unbelievable. 

Now that you have more knowledge about the D get exploring. Play with it and have fun! 

Do you know that at least 67% of heterosexual women have said they have faked an orgasm, Journal of Sex Research, 47(6) and 26% said they fake them every time? Well it seems like way too many people are just not doing it right. The key to the female orgasm is foreplay and lots of it. When there is time, foreplay should last at least 15 to 20 minutes, but you know what? The amount of time you spend on foreplay doesn't mean shit if you are doing it wrong. Ladies, you have the most important role in foreplay if you want him to make you cum. You need to communicate with him about what feels pleasurable and what doesn't. 

Of course, the first step in this process is figuring it out for yourself. Yes...I'm talking about masturbation. Lay yourself down in a dark quiet room. Pull your pants down a little, not all the way down, just low enough so you can just about open your legs. Trust me the feeling of tension between your thighs will increase your pleasure. Now slowly move your hand down your body, below the pubic bone and reach a finger or two right between the top of your lips. Keep moving down til you feel a sensation that could actually make you jump. Right there you will find a little bulge under your inner lips...guess what you found your clit! Now take that clit and rub it, rub it like you would the head of a dick. Move your fingers up and down, take your fingers and circle them around. Rub right on the clit, rub each side of the clit. Take your pointer finger and thumb, grasp your clit between your fingers and move it around a bit. Try this with your knees bent up, try it with your legs down, try laying on your back, on your side or your stomach. See what feels the best. 

If you want to get creative try kneeling on your knees, reaching down and rubbing your clit upright, but just to let you know, once you make yourself orgasm you may end up throwing yourself down on the bed in pleasure. Now if you REALLY want to get creative find yourself a vibrator or dildo. Stick that toy inside of you. Lift the top of the toy towards the pubic bone until you feel a little pressure. Now you just found the g-spot. You can even feel the g-spot with your fingers if you don't have a toy (or cucumber lol). Stick two fingers into your vagina and curl them up til you feel pressure. It may feel a little like you are pushing on your bladder but the g-spot is right there and trust me it feels good, then great, then fucking amazing. Get a little crazy with it. Use both hands. Use one to rub your clit and stick the tfingers on your other hand inside. Try rubbing the clit and just holding down the g-spot, try rubbing the clit and moving your fingers on and off the g-spot. Try anything you want. Get creative. The more you know about your body the more you can tell him. 

Now if you have never had a real orgasm before or think you may have but your not sure of it then you are in for the ride of your life. First you will feel a slight sensation, almost like a tickle. As your clit grows the tickle becomes stronger and becomes more sensitive. The more sensitive you become the better it will feel. You will start to feel the blood rushing to your clit and the temperature down there rising as your clit begins to swell. You become wetter and wetter. Your adrenaline will start pumping. You will literally feel yourself get more excited. You may start to shake. Staying quiet may become difficult. Then, it may take sometime, but as that adrenaline builds up you feel like you are going up a roller coaster. You get closer and closer. You start to feel like you just can't stand the sensation anymore then POW your body just let's itself go and you thrash around in pleasure. You shoot down the roller coaster, around the loops, speeding by. For some it feels like a quick burst, if your lucky you are like me and it takes you for a long ride. Once you have a real orgasm you will know. If you aren't sure if you ever had one you probably haven't. Its unlike anything you have felt before. 

Now that you know what you like don't be afraid to guide your partner. Close your eyes, pay attention to the sensations. Tell him where to go, where to stop, how to move. You might tell him to circle around the clit, you may want him to rub his finger up and down the side of your clit or on it. You might want his fingers inside of you exploring your g-spot. Hell, you may even want him to use the toy on you. Don't be afraid to give him directions. A little to the right, up a little, too far now down a little, to the left, now suck on it. Tell him where to go and what to do until he is able to open up your combination lock then just let yourself go. 

Some of women get grossed out by it, some just have no clue what to do, but with a few tricks, sucking a dick can be fun!

First, start by kissing the man's neck and work your way down the chest, to the stomach, right above the hip bone then lick from one hip bone to the next. After, continue kissing down the pelvic bone and start at the dick by licking the shaft up and down. Lick your way to the head then just suck on the head for a while. Play with the head with your tongue. Flick your tongue gently back and forth, first then left to right. Spin your tongue around the head. Then slowly move down deeper taking in a little more of the shaft at a time. Take it so that you move lower at least 4 to 5 times, probably about an inch and a half or so each time..possibly more depending on size.

Then move on to a deep throat. Make sure you take a good breath in and out before this because a good deep throat blocks the airways. Relax your throat muscles the best you can. It is the stiffness of the throat muscles that make you gag. A good trick to relax your throat muscles is to just rest your tongue instead of doing anything with it while you deep throat. Relaxing the throat muscles takes practice, but after a while you should be able to take it deeper and deeper until your tongue reaches the top of their balls, although, that too is depending on size. When you are a novice deep throat as long as you can. You may be able to deep throat repeatedly with no breaks or you may need to just take breaks from a deep throat and just bob your head up and down, sucking on the shaft as far as you are comfortable. Just remember always try as low as you can.

You can also cup your man's balls and play with them a little bit while sucking his dick. Then look up at your man. Keep bobbing up and down and playing with the head as you look into his eyes. After, take his dick out of your mouth and lick each side up and down, start right at the bottom of the shaft and work your way to the head still looking up at him. Suck on the head a little bit. It is okay to do a little actual suction. It's fun to use your tongue to play with the head while you are sucking.. Don't just bob up and down like you did with the shaft. Then go back to moving your tongue all around, back and forth as well as left to right. Now move your body up towards the middle (or so) of your man's body. Move your tits to his dick and let him tittie fuck you. He will slide his dick between your cleavage. Hold the top of your tits as close together as you can leaving room for the man to slip up and down your body. This will be easier or more difficult depending on your size breasts. You may be able to hold them with one hand, you may need to clasp your hands together or you may need to use your hands as an extension of your titties. Do the best you can. While his dick is rubbing between your tits try to catch his head with your tongue. Play with the head when it moves up towards your mouth. You can play with your tongue or suck on it. It's your choice.

After, crawl your body back down so that your mouth is right back down to his dick. Let him smack his dick across your face a few times then put your mouth back around it. Try deep throating again and/or bobbing your head up and down. For your last trick, try to make a tornado in your mouth. Lick around his dick starting at the head and spiraling your way down. Then spiral your way back up to his head and lick right at the base of the head. Not the tip, the bottom of the head right before the shaft. Circle around there a few times then go back to deep throating and/or bobbing. Make sure you pay attention to your speed. Just like with talking, if you stay at the same speed the whole time it will get boring. Sometimes go a little slower, especially while looking at your man's eyes. Go a little faster then slower as you deep throat, bob and play with the head. When he is ready to cum you need to make a choice, either let him cum all over your face and tits or take it in the mouth either spitting or swallowing. If you choose to take it in the mouth it's fun to watch him squirm and moan if you spend your last seconds flicking your tongue very gently around the head while it's still in your mouth. That is it. That is how you give the perfect blow job!

My name is ShhhMarie. I have been writing since I was 14 and developed a fascination with sex not much later than that. I have taken classes, done research and have had tons of fun exploring. I have been sharing tips with friends for at least 15 years and am ready to share with the world.

Every Wednesday I will create a new blog. If there are any specific topics you are interested in reading more about or questions you would be interested in seeing me answer. Put the questions/topic in the comments. 

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