Do you know that at least 67% of heterosexual women have said they have faked an orgasm, Journal of Sex Research, 47(6) and 26% said they fake them every time? Well it seems like way too many people are just not doing it right. The key to the female orgasm is foreplay and lots of it. When there is time, foreplay should last at least 15 to 20 minutes, but you know what? The amount of time you spend on foreplay doesn't mean shit if you are doing it wrong. Ladies, you have the most important role in foreplay if you want him to make you cum. You need to communicate with him about what feels pleasurable and what doesn't. 

Of course, the first step in this process is figuring it out for yourself. Yes...I'm talking about masturbation. Lay yourself down in a dark quiet room. Pull your pants down a little, not all the way down, just low enough so you can just about open your legs. Trust me the feeling of tension between your thighs will increase your pleasure. Now slowly move your hand down your body, below the pubic bone and reach a finger or two right between the top of your lips. Keep moving down til you feel a sensation that could actually make you jump. Right there you will find a little bulge under your inner lips...guess what you found your clit! Now take that clit and rub it, rub it like you would the head of a dick. Move your fingers up and down, take your fingers and circle them around. Rub right on the clit, rub each side of the clit. Take your pointer finger and thumb, grasp your clit between your fingers and move it around a bit. Try this with your knees bent up, try it with your legs down, try laying on your back, on your side or your stomach. See what feels the best. 

If you want to get creative try kneeling on your knees, reaching down and rubbing your clit upright, but just to let you know, once you make yourself orgasm you may end up throwing yourself down on the bed in pleasure. Now if you REALLY want to get creative find yourself a vibrator or dildo. Stick that toy inside of you. Lift the top of the toy towards the pubic bone until you feel a little pressure. Now you just found the g-spot. You can even feel the g-spot with your fingers if you don't have a toy (or cucumber lol). Stick two fingers into your vagina and curl them up til you feel pressure. It may feel a little like you are pushing on your bladder but the g-spot is right there and trust me it feels good, then great, then fucking amazing. Get a little crazy with it. Use both hands. Use one to rub your clit and stick the tfingers on your other hand inside. Try rubbing the clit and just holding down the g-spot, try rubbing the clit and moving your fingers on and off the g-spot. Try anything you want. Get creative. The more you know about your body the more you can tell him. 

Now if you have never had a real orgasm before or think you may have but your not sure of it then you are in for the ride of your life. First you will feel a slight sensation, almost like a tickle. As your clit grows the tickle becomes stronger and becomes more sensitive. The more sensitive you become the better it will feel. You will start to feel the blood rushing to your clit and the temperature down there rising as your clit begins to swell. You become wetter and wetter. Your adrenaline will start pumping. You will literally feel yourself get more excited. You may start to shake. Staying quiet may become difficult. Then, it may take sometime, but as that adrenaline builds up you feel like you are going up a roller coaster. You get closer and closer. You start to feel like you just can't stand the sensation anymore then POW your body just let's itself go and you thrash around in pleasure. You shoot down the roller coaster, around the loops, speeding by. For some it feels like a quick burst, if your lucky you are like me and it takes you for a long ride. Once you have a real orgasm you will know. If you aren't sure if you ever had one you probably haven't. Its unlike anything you have felt before. 

Now that you know what you like don't be afraid to guide your partner. Close your eyes, pay attention to the sensations. Tell him where to go, where to stop, how to move. You might tell him to circle around the clit, you may want him to rub his finger up and down the side of your clit or on it. You might want his fingers inside of you exploring your g-spot. Hell, you may even want him to use the toy on you. Don't be afraid to give him directions. A little to the right, up a little, too far now down a little, to the left, now suck on it. Tell him where to go and what to do until he is able to open up your combination lock then just let yourself go.