Men, you know the most common way to masturbate is to jerk off by stroking up and down the shaft using a loose or tight grip, but to prevent from it getting boring try new things. Alternate the speed. Start out slow then move your way up to a quicker speed once you get close to cumming slow the speed down again or stop for a minute.  This technique is called Edging. Believe it or not, if you use this technique enough you can actually train yourself to have multiple orgasms like a woman can. Also try changing positions. Sit on a chair, lay in bed, sit on the floor with your legs crisis-crossed around, lean up against a wall, lean down against the edge of the bed/counter/ table, try on all fours (well 3 of 4, you need the one hand for stroking). If you haven't already, try the shower, not only do you get the feeling of your hand around your dick you feel the beating down of the water too.  Other variations are switching hands, holding it with just two fingers like between the pointer and middle finger or wrapping just the thumb and pointer around it. Move your hips to the jerking motion to give it more of a feel like fucking. Stroke it while twisting the hand around. Put your palm over the head and stroke it with your finger tips. Put your hand around your balls and give them a jiggle, massage your taint right below your balls. Put pressure on the fleshy area right past the stiff dick and stimulate the prostate. If you are tired of your hands try fifi or a fake pussy. There's a few ways you can do this; there are toys specifically made for it like the fifi sleeve, but if you don't want to go all out you can use household items. You can use a hand towel, fold it in half and roll it around a rubber glove leaving the bottom of the glove outside the edge of the towel then fold the extra part of the glove over the rolled towel so that you have an opening to stick your dick. Put some lube, lotion or warm water in the glove and stick it in. If you want it to be tighter put rubber bands along the outside. Another idea is using a rubber glove, bottom half of a water bottle and 2 sponges. Place the glove between two sponges leaving excess outside the top of the sponges. Push down the two sponges that are closing in the glove, leaving the excess glove at the top. Make sure a little of the soft sponge sticks out of the bottle and fold the excess over the sponges to make an opening. Then put lube/lotion/warm water in the glove and stick it in. Get creative!

 

Women, you know the most common masturbation techniques is using your fingers to rub your clit, getting a vibrator to do it for you or using your fingers or dildo to penetrate, but don't be afraid to get creative. Don't just rub on the clit rub the right side and the left side too. Above the clit, right below the clit. Circle it. Squeeze it between your pointer and thumb. Smack your clit with your whole hand. Spit on it for increased moisture. Stick your fingers inside and find the g-spot. Take one or two fingers curl them up inside so that its hooking upward towards your pubic bone as if you are telling someone to come here. You will feel pressure almost like you have to pee but that's not what it is, keep putting pressure there on and off and you will notice that it's way more than that. The feeling will become more intense and less like its your bladder. Try rubbing your clit while you put pressure on the g-spot. Get a vibrator that stimulates the g-spot and clit simultaneously. Get Ben Wa balls and do keggles. Get a dildo they come in a variety of types and sizes. Try deep penetration, shallow penetration, just rub it between your lips. Get yourself a removable shower head and use the pulsation of the shower head to massage your clit. Like the men switch positions sitting up, criss-crossing your legs or bending your knees up and apart. Lay on your back or lay on your stomach, kneel, on all fours, etc. Get creative with your positioning. Also, don't just lie still and let your fingers and toys do all the moving . Move your hips back and forth or circle them matching the motion. Try pillow humping. Have fun with it! Creativity is the best part! Women do you want to train yourself to have multiple orgasms?  Like I said for the men, try Edging. Start out moving slowly, pick up the speed go at a fast pace til you feel like you are going to cum then stop or slow down. I mean literally at the point you are about to cum, not just that heightened state of adrenaline that could possibly slow down before your body finally allows yourself to orgasm. You know what I am talking about. You feel it coming, you feel it coming then BAM, gone. Not then. I mean right as you are about to climax, but don't wait too long either. Keep that up and you will get to the point of multiple orgasms.

 

Did you know that masturbation does not reflect negatively on a relationship? It actually improves a couples sexual health (WebMD). It allows you to let your partner know how you like it during foreplay and sex. How fast or slow do you like it? Do you like it rough? What positions feel best? How deep should he penetrate? What do you want your partner to do when he or she is giving oral? Should she play with your head or is it too sensitive? How much should she play? Should he lick on the clit or around it? How loose or tight should his tongue be? What about during a hand job? How tight should her grip be? How fast should she stroke it? Should she use her whole hand or just a couple of fingers? Alternate? What about being fingered? How many fingers should he use? You can direct him towards your g-spot. You can't do that unless you know where it is yourself! There's a lot to learn through masturbation and if you want to have A LOT of fun masturbate side by side. It can be a real turn on.

 

I will leave you with a couple small facts. Women who masturbate actually find that it complements their sex lives and for men it is more likely to compensate for it.Blue balls is not a myth it is a real thing. It's not healthy for his cum to back up into his prostate. It needs to be released so if you aren't there to release he will have to and it does not reflect poorly on you.